Some people, especially some poets, tend to see something very beautiful, sublime and even noble in cultivating a platonic love, those that must be lived at a distance, only through fantasy, in the most hidden places of mind and heart of lovers.
In general, that kind of love is aimed at people who, until further notice, are “impossible”. Yes, those people whom, for whatever reason, you cannot approach, either because they are far away physically or because they represent a high risk, an imminent danger. It can be the boss, the boyfriend of the best friend, the uncle’s wife and even famous people, who live a very, very different reality from the reality of the one who loves them. In short, people committed or not available.
As a theme of poetry, let’s agree, it really gives a lot. Yield. However, on a daily basis, if you spend too much time looking or, worse still, putting too many expectations into forbidden hearts, it’s time to review your beliefs about the possibility of actually being happy in love.
The fact is that we all have beliefs that, ultimately, exert a significant influence on our most intimate choices. Even more when they are unconscious, that is, when we can not imagine that they are guiding us. And the less we know ourselves, the less we observe our actions and the dynamics we establish in the relationships we live, the less we will have notion of what are the beliefs that are determining who we attract and whom we reject.
So, if you got used to discovering yourself in love with people with whom you know that, however much desire may be, nothing will ever happen … Then it’s time to question you and, in silence, wait until you get the answer: why is it that you prefer just what is not possible? Why is it that you are relating love with difficulty, pain, anguish and frustration?
Is it not that, deep down, you are very afraid of being interested in someone who is available and, faced with the real possibility of compromising, not knowing what to do, how to act, how to demonstrate what you feel and who you are? Or maybe you are so well-accommodated in that place that you have no luck in love that you would not know what to do if you realized that you are the creator of your own fate.
In short, the reasons that can lead someone to choose the most improbable and tortuous paths in the pursuit of happiness and the realization of love can be many and varied. And if that is your case, the only person who can find out what your motives are is yourself!
My suggestion is that at least you look, you question, at least try to realize what your fear is. What are you clinging to? What door still needs to open inside you so that love flows light, free and loose in your life?
And you can be sure that, sooner or later, without intimidating yourself against your right to be happy, you will discover yourself loving close and true, with all the blessings of the universe and the most important people in your history!
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